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Adolf Hitler Was A Black Man: Hip Hop and Colorism

In Colorism on April 5, 2011 at 7:28 pm

Adolf Hitler must have been a Black man.  I wonder what’s taking his brethren so long to declare a national holiday in observance of the ideologies they have adopted.  No wonder Time Magazine declared him The Man of the Year in 1939.

He was. . .

brilliant.

How could anyone expect my brothers to do anything but emulate his infallible approach to self-hate.  How could you not be seduced by his dignified and strategic attempt to execrate the bane of his existence, without drawing attention to the fact that those whom he denounced; those physical characteristics whom he deemed as representative of a societal venom, were that of his own.

Brilliant is the man that speaks with the charisma, and gallops with the gallantry, that blinds his army.

Adolf Hitler would have gone triple platinum in 2011.  He would have been celebrated at award shows. His income would have been supplemented by superfluous endorsements.  Children would have mimicked his attire and his manner of speech.  Excerpts of his indignant speeches would have been mixed with drums and keyboards and played as the background song to films.  Too bad he didn’t make it; he would have been a star.

A rap star.

They say it’s all in my head.  They say it’s not as big of a deal as I am making it out to be.

Wasn’t FaceBook a thought in a college dorm, when it first started?  Wasn’t Wal-Mart just one little shop in a lower-income community, when it first started?  Didn’t AT&T pass up the opportunity to have a monopoly in the cellular phone industry because the demand thereof was too small?  It looks as though we too, have forgotten that everything grand, starts small.

Adolf’s conditioning of supremacy started small. . .

If you say something over and over again, if you reiterate something over and over again, at some point in time it will manifest itself.  It will generate a group of followers who subconsciously begin to act and react as they have been conditioned.

CNN asked why the marriage rates of Black women were so low – well what did you expect, I just told you that at some point we start to act as we have been conditioned. And what makes the conditioning of the re-emergence of the Brown Paper Bag society fall into the grandeur of Sire Adolf Hitler?

Because, those physical characteristics whom they have deemed as representative of a societal venom, are that of their own.  They have denounced us so repetitively that even artists like Pitbull, a White Hispanic, are comfortable chanting about the supremacy of fair skin beauty.  Pitbull has ensured that his daughters, should he have them, will not only grow up knowing that they are beautiful;  he  has ensured that they will forever be received as beautiful.

What a pity I cannot credit Reginae Carter’s father for doing the same.

Hitler’s ideology was unconscionably brilliant; blind the masses to your self-perceived physical inadequacies by championing hate and disgust for those bearing like features.

Brilliantly masochistic.

I didn’t do any formal research; I just sat down and listened to the radio and watched underground Hip-Hop stations for two hours a day, for two days.

Everything starts small.

Heil Hitler

Subliminal Messages Of Supremacy: The Lyrics of Main Stream Hip Hop;  Just a Preference?

Artist: Lil Wayne

Song Title: Right Above It

“. . .beautiful Black woman, I bet you that bitch look better red”?

Artist: Lil Wayne

Song Title: Every Girl

“I like a long hair thick red bone . . .” The song continues as Lil Wayne’s friend concurs with his preference, ” I like ‘um caramel skin long hair. . . my butter pecan rican be screamin’ out papi every time [a brother] deep in. . .”

Puff Daddy said in the Fontaine Bleau song by the Bugatti Boyz ft Masspike Miles,  “. . .a queen is always a man’s best accessory, look at mine she’s half Black and Cherokee. . .”

Lil Wayne, Song Title: Ride With the Mack, “I tell a dark skin chick I`m allergic to chocolate.”

Red Cafe ft Rick Ross, Song Title: Faded,”. . .Pour for all them White and Light girls. We just buy all these bottles ‘cause it excites girls”

Cam’ron, Song Title: We All Up In Here, “Caramel with good hair she that cool g

Young LA, Song Title: Taser Gun, “. . .light skin long hair dats the beauty queen she the kinda of girl you see up on the movie screen.”

Fabolous, Song Title: Lights Out, “. . .Bottles of Rosae keeps finding it`s way to my section And groups of pretty bitches with them light skin complexion.”

Artist: PitBull: Song Title: Jungle Fever

“Coffee with no cream, That’s like. . .Martin Luther King with no dream,…I’m that chico that got a fetish with women Light skin red bones they blow my mind”

Artist: Nicki Minaj Ft Drake: Song Title: Moment 4 Life

“Yeah, you a star in my eyes, you and all them White girls party of five”

Artist: Chris Brown Ft Lil Wayne ft Busta Rhymes: Song Title: Look At Me Now

“Yellow model chick Yellow bottle sipping Yellow Lamborghini Yellow top missing”

Artist: Gucci Man ft Plies: Song Title: Wasted

“And Gucci not a racist.  All my diamonds Caucasians”

***Diamond: Slang term for someone who is precious to you (i.e. a woman, girlfriend, lover).

Artist: Juelz Santana: Song Title: Her, Him, and Me

“Let me tell you bout this bitch name Loreal, Light skin, long hair”

Artist: Soulja Boy: Song Title: Pretty Boy Swag (remix)

“I’m lookin for a yellow bone long hair star”

Artist:DJ Khaled ft T-Pain, Ludacris, Rick Ross, Snoop Dogg: Song Title: All I Do Is Win

“I pull out in my Rolls Royce, Yellow bone passenger they see it, they say oh boy!”

Artist:Young Jeezy: Song Title: Black and Yellow G-Mix

“black Nike’s, 3 red bone bitches. . .Said her girl on the way, she a yellow bone”

Artist: Kanye West: Song Title:Take One for the Team

“ She a red bone but her cousin is dark.  A little out of shape but you’ll f@#% in the dark”

Artist: Lloyd: Song Title: Track Shoes

“. . .this is a hit song on a bottle of proton lookin 4 a red bone”

Artist: Jagged Edge: Song Title: Tip of My Tongue

“He can’t believe it’s real, He like em red bone, He love em Independent”

Artist: Beatnuts: Song Title: Hood Thang

“Push the seat back, I’m in the head zone.  Gettin my head blown by a red bone.”

Artist: Cam’Ron: Song Title: Touch it or Not

“. . .Looked light skin, mommy was tight slim”

Artist: The Diplomats/Vado: Song Title: Statute (Remix)

“. . .Red Bone passenger”

Artist: Ghostface Killah: Song Title: Zgetha Baby

“. . .Skin like Halle”

Artist: Shawn Chrystopher: Song Title: Catch Me if You Can

“. . .I got a light-skin broad”

Artist: Waka Flocka Flame: Song Title: No Hands

“When she walks she get this. . . BROWN SKIN OR YELLOW BONE”

One lone spark of light at the end of the tunnel.  .  .

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Fighting for Tomorrow’s Generation of Dark Skin Black Women

In Saving Tomorrow on April 2, 2011 at 5:55 pm

I must admit; I am not angry with people of non-African descent who can’t seem to understand the importance or the need for all the Jet Magazines and BET networks of the world.

I’ve learned to reconcile my anger with the fact that the majority of my Black friends don’t have the ability to see beyond their own pain and struggles so I can’t possibly expect someone of non-African descent to understand the pain and struggles of the Black American community as a whole.  I can’t tell you how many times I’ve had to explain and re-explain my endless search for  fictional children’s books with illustrations of beautiful dark skin little girls.

“I don’t see the difference or the problem with getting this book?  I mean it doesn’t matter if the character is light skin or not she’s still Black and isn’t that what you’re trying to do?  Surround your children with positive images of Black people?”

I don’t understand why so many of  my lighter skin Black friends cannot understand why White people don’t understand the need or the societal benefit of  magazines like Jet and network stations such as BET, since they, my lighter skin Black friends, can’t understand the importance and the societal benefit of positive image portrayals of dark skin Black women in the media.

White People: We need Jet Magazine and we need BET because there is a group of people who are under-represented in the media.  Magazines such as Jet and television networks such as BET ensure that those people who are less likely to be afforded an opportunity to audition for an acting role, in a more traditional setting, are granted an opportunity to do so in a more targeted setting.  Let’s throw race out of the equation so that it hits home: There is a need for the Little People Association of America.  Little People are people who have been clinically diagnosed with a medical condition known as dwarfism, which warrants an extremely short stature.  People with this condition are more likely to experience discrimination than those of us of average height.  Thus, the stature of a Little Person warrants varying needs that are under-represented in the average height world.  How many times have you seen an excessively short toilet bowl for sale at Home Depot?  Have you ever been interviewed for a position by a Little Person?  (Oh, it must be because they don’t go to college, right?)  How many Little People have you seen on the big screen this year?  The Little People Association of America is needed because there is a group of people who are under-represented in our society and are more likely to be robbed of their civil and societal liberties as a result of discrimination.  It’s the same  for Black People.  How many Black bosses have you had?  How many times have you worked with mortgage broker that was Black? (Oh, it must be because they don’t go to college, right?).

Black People:  Now, I don’t understand why you switch gears when it comes to dark skin Black women.  I really can’t understand why it is we expect White people to understand why it’s important for us to have our own magazines and television networks, but we can’t understand why it’s important for dark skin Black women to have their own. How many dark skin Black actresses have you seen on the big screen this year?  How may dark skin Black actresses or models have you ever seen make  America’s 50 Most Beautiful People List? Think of five videos you’ve seen in the last year; How many dark skin Black women played the love interest? I might be going off on the deep-end, but I have a funny feeling

we have a group of people who are under-represented. . . perhaps even more so than the Black community as a whole.

I try to buy as many children books that I can find that have as many dark skin Black female characters and hope that women, including White women, with dark skin Black baby girls will start demanding these books more often. It all starts at the beginning.  We can’t control the Lil’ Wayne’s of the world and we sure as he’ll can’t control who ends up on the cover of the magazines at the grocery store, but we can control what tomorrow’s generation of dark skin Black women see when they come home.  We have to strategically fight back and the best way to fight is not to get on YouTube and post a video about how many men you, as a dark skin Black woman, have been with and how you don’t understand why everyone “keeps tryin’ ta’ act like men don’t like dark skin Black women. . .’cause you done had da’ best of ‘um”.

The best way to fight back is to build the confidence, tweak the paradigm, and raise the resilience of tomorrows generation of  dark skin Black women by rearing them with a plethora of positive images of Black children like themselves. We need to give them books with main characters that they can identify with.  And needless to say, it is almost impossible to find fictional children’s books with main characters that are Black AND dark skin AND drawn in a manner that is pleasing to the eye.   But, there are some books that come close and for now close is better than nothing.  We need more children’s books with us in them.  We need our own little section at the bookstore; I don’t care if it’s in the back of the store. I just want to see Nancy Drew, in dark black skin, with beautiful nappy locks, and a  gorgeous bright smile. I need my children to have some more ammunition whenever their inherent right to this earth as a woman is challenged.

If you have a dark skin baby girl you should have at least one or two books where she can see herself or someone close to herself as the star — the pretty star.  So whenever someone teases her or tells her that she isn’t what she truly is, a beautiful baby girl, at least she’ll be able to come home, snuggle up with her little book, and hope one day to grow up to be Ms. Danitra Brown.  Our children need something to look up to, something to aspire to. . . and that something should look just like them — Beautiful Dark Skin Black Little Women.

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Light Skin vs Dark Skin Black Women: The Hayley Paley Syndrome

In Hayley Paley Syndrome on April 2, 2011 at 2:06 am

Hayley Paley Syndrome.  Ignorance is bliss.

I overheard a co-worker of mine explaining to our boss why she had to leave early the other day.  Apparently her daughter, whom I’m assuming is a little dark skin Black girl, was being incessantly ridiculed by one of her classmates because of the complexion of her skin color.  Now, personally, since our boss is a White woman I probably would not have shared the details of the ridicule my child was enduring but, sometimes when we get upset, we forget where we are, and who we are talking to.

“Yeah, this kid, and I think he’s an African-American, keeps telling her that she’s so black she looks like rotten fruit.”

“Really.”

“Really, and the other day he brought her a bar of soap and told her that he saw a commercial where volunteers were using Dove to clean off the animals from the BP oil spill and he thought she could use some”.  I could tell she wanted to cry.  She isn’t dark skin, but she loves her daughter enough to step outside of herself.  I could tell she understood.

“Well, kids are kids and all kids are made fun of at some point.  You know what the kids call my daughter at school? They call her Hayley “Paley” because she’s just like me.  I mean we’re so White we can’t even tan.  So, she’ll get over it I’m sure.  Kids are cruel and everybody gets made fun of every now and then – oh I need to take this call, have a great night and don’t forget to watch American Idol.”

Hayley Paley Syndrome = the subconscious inability to identify the varying degrees of pain warranting a propensity to desensitize the anguish, plight, turmoil, or distress of another by equating a state of lesser distress to a state of greater distress.

Like I’ve said before, I’m not as angry with people of non-African descent who can’t seem to find it in their hearts to step outside of themselves and empathize with the plight of the Black community, especially since so many of my own women, Light Skin Black Women, have exhibited symptoms of the Hayley Paley Syndrome.

Regardless as to how many little boys and girls ridicule Hayley’s fair complexion her universally accepted beauty will be reinforced every second of her life.  All Hayley has to do is turn on the television, pick up a magazine, watch a movie, or watch a rerun of Friends and she will see dozens of women, purported as being the epitome of beauty, with the very same physical characteristics that warranted the ridicule she endured earlier that day.  Thus,  her isolated incident of ridicule will become just that, an isolated incident.  She will be able to psychologically dismiss the ridicule, as beauty, in her juvenile world of magazines and CD’s, will look just like her.

A couple of weeks before this happened, I remember my boss running frantically out of her office pleading that she may  have to quit her job to keep Hayley  from getting pregnant.

“She’s starting to get a lot of attention from all the little boys at her school and I have to make it a point to be home when she gets home. . .I don’t want to catch another one of those twerps in my house”.

Hayley’s ridicule is what I would consider to be normal and quite frankly, healthy. She has a few boys telling her that her extremely fair complexion makes her ugly and she also has a handful of boys telling her that she’s beautiful. And when she goes home, her beauty is once again reaffirmed by the media.

When Tianna goes home after a day of ridicule, does she get to turn on the TV and see someone with her physical characteristics being praised as beautiful?  Who does she see being purported as the epitome of beauty when she flips through a magazine?  When Tianna goes home the contention of those little boys  is reaffirmed; need I remind you of the characters of Proud Family again.  The only dark skin characters were the mean ugly girls; they were  so black they were drawn in shades of blue.  What magazine should Tianna open to reaffirm her beauty — we don’t even put our own women, Dark Skin Black women, in our magazines.  Those spaces are reserved for the most beautiful of Black women, the ones that are half Black or light skin, right?

To Light Skin Black Women effected by the Hayley Paley syndrome:  Your pain although greater than that of Hayley has no similarity to my own. I am no where. When they laughed at me as a child I too would go home and try to reaffirm my beauty, but when I watched our television shows, our videos, and when I read our magazines, who did I find being praised as beautiful,

you — and only you.

I could never hold up a magazine and say well, my Black can’t possibly be that bad ‘cause all the pretty girls in the magazines look like me.  I can’t stand to hear Light Skin Black women saying, “It’s rough all over. You don’t know what’s it’s like to be light skin.”

Well, I sure wish I knew what it was like to be in every movie, every magazine, every video, every song lyric — has the media promoted or expressed a sentiment about Dark Skin Black women that you wish you could experience?

I cried all the way home for that little girl.  I’ve never spoken to her, nor have I seen her,

but I know her.

I know her well.

I so hope one day that the men who have the ability to change the world, chose to change it. And I so wish that Dark Skin Black women would unite as Black people united in the 60’s and demand the right, to our inherent right, to be seen and revered as Beautiful women.  And most importantly, I wish my light skin Black sisters would stop equating their pain to my own.  Don’t forget these songs, sung by our men, were sung for you, you are a woman to them, I am still waiting to be. . .

Lil Wayne, Song Title: Ride With the Mack, “I tell a dark skin chick I`m allergic to chocolate.”

Fabolous, Song Title: Lights Out, “. . .Bottles of Rosae keeps finding it`s way to my section And groups of pretty bitches with them light skin complexion.”

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Bikini Brawl at Burger King: Another Tragedy for Black People

In The News on March 30, 2011 at 11:39 pm

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vuC5Osh5HDs

Once a week, make it a point to bite your tongue.  Make it a point to say I’m sorry when it isn’t your fault.  Make it a point this week to muster up your strength to fight and smile for no reason at all and re-create the stereotype.

As I watch this video, I couldn’t help but to recount all the times I’ve seen Black women losing control in public.  I wish I could say that I’ve seen just as many White women having outbursts at Macy’s but that would be a lie. I don’t know ladies.  Maybe it isn’t our skin tone.  Maybe it is us.  Maybe it’s the unrelenting fight in us that makes him want someone other than us.  If I was on the other side, I have to tell you, I just might pass me by for the fear of being with someone who isn’t afraid to be a man; to fight in the street like a man. To tattoo their arms like a man.  I don’t know

. . .maybe we are the reason our femininity has yet to be certified.

I actually cried yesterday when I saw this video on the news.  I really hate drawing attention to this clip, but I had to release my anger somehow and I’ve found this whole blogging thing to be somewhat healing; I should have majored in English so that I could write all day long.

I was angry at the woman for giving those young men an opportunity to make the wrong decision to upload their taping of her debacle onto YouTube and making an isolated incident of a Black woman’s poor judgment accessible to the masses.  And of course I was livid when the media did as I anticipated and made this irrelevant story national news.   I was heart broken when I read the comments that were left by those who viewed the YouTube video.  I didn’t want to draw any more attention to the video, but then I realized how important it was to share.

I think this video should be played in every predominantly African-American school  and the comments left by the viewers of the video should be read aloud to the students. I think this is a great way to show our youth how damaging their isolated actions are to their community as a whole.  I can’t think of a better way to make our children want to be more than what people anticipate them to be then to show them there thoughts.  And maybe, just maybe, we should invite the Basketball Wives and the Housewives of Atlanta and ask them to do the same; watch the clip and then read the comments of the viewers aloud.

You need to watch the video and every time you feel yourself about to lose control, ask yourself, if this is how you want to be seen.  The sad thing is, even if you don’t have this violent of an episode, to those luring racists in need of another opportunity to say, “I told you so”, you did.

“They must have been out of bananas…”

“You’re compared to apes because you act like them not because you look like them.”

“[Blacks] haven’t evolved.  You’re still jumping up and down on counter tops like a bunch of apes.”

A friend of mine told me that during one of the reunion shows of the Housewives of Atlanta the host, Andy Cohen, asked a question he received from a viewer of the show, “Do you think you were a good representation of the African-American community?”  One of the women said something along the lines of “I didn’t feel that we were representing for everyone and I don’t understand why every time a group of Black people are on a show they have to be representing for every Black person in America.”

I can’t stand this statement.  Who cares that it isn’t fair that when a White person loses control it’s an isolated incident, but when a Black person loses control it’s representative of the entire community.  This is one injustice that does not warrant our time or energy.  Instead of trying to refute the FACT that when Black people are in the media their actions and statements and manner of speech are stereotyped as being the norm within the community, why don’t  we try to make it a point to make sure that the stereotype is well behaved, articulate, calm mannered, and well coiffed. Why can’t we make it a point to act, speak, and conduct ourselves in a manner that can only be associated with the aristocracy that mothered the Harlem Renaissance. I am appalled by the acceptance of trash in our community.

Why is it almost every reality show with Black women is filled with misconjugated verbs and violence? We so want to be treated equally, but we’re so proud of our separate, but equal dictionary, right?   Why can’t we be like the RZA and use the standard terms and sing songs that make our kids look up words that they can actually use at work, on a resume, in a business proposal that will make everyone think, This must a very well-educated man/woman.

I think every Black woman should watch this video and then read the comments. Were you angry enough with the Housewives of Atlanta and the Basketball Wives to stop watching and to stop giving them ratings?

If your answer is “no”, then don’t get mad at this video or the comments, because you too have only partially evolved.  Let us not forget that there was a time where it was WRITTEN in the constitution of the United States of America that people of color were 1/8th man.  There was a time in our constitution that people of color were legally classified as property, no different from a bicycle, or a dog, or a tree.  We have to accept the responsibility of our community as a whole.  Everything you say, everything you do, everything you accomplish, everything you don’t accomplish will either give another racist an opportunity to say, “I told you so”, or it will give another a racist an opportunity to say, “Maybe it isn’t so”.  The choice is yours.  Stop being so aggressive.  Stop being so blunt; learn to  edit yourself.  You don’t always have to say what comes to your mind.

And to my beautiful dark skin Black women, our men, per the images I see in the media, and make no mistake of it the media is our culture whether you like it or not I don’t care about the isolated incidents you have had with our men, our men per the images in the media and the song lyrics don’t certify our femininity; it is even more important for us to exhibit nothing but everything that is feminine in public.  We might always be apes to some, but can we please accept the responsibility of our community and be women, especially in front of our men.  If you look closely at the video the only calm-mannered woman in the video, was the White lady, who sat at the table with her face in her hands and her meal by her side

. . .maybe it is us, because if I were a man the only woman in that room that I would have treated like a woman, was the one that everyone treats like a woman.  The one that wasn’t shouting and fighting like a man

. . .the White woman.  Maybe it is us.

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Paris Hilton May Think Black Guys Are Gross

In Dark Skin & Hollywood on March 25, 2011 at 3:33 pm

The author  of Everyone Loves You When You’re Dead: Journeys Into Fame and Madness, Neil Strauss alleges that during an interview, or some sort of an encounter with Paris Hilton in 1999, Paris indicated that, “I can’t stand Black guys. I would never touch one. It’s gross.”  Neil Strauss alleges that this confession was received as he and the heiress, Ms. Paris Hilton, spoke openly about varying subjects.  One of which included Paris’ recount of an evening where she found herself embracing an undisclosed  co-star of the sitcom hit Saving Private Ryan and immediately removed herself from the embrace once she realized that the co-star was a Black man. Neil Strauss further alleges that Paris made the following statement:  “We were making out, but then we went somewhere where it was bright and I saw that he was Black and I made an excuse and left.”

I feel so evil today. I don’t know if this is the wrong way to feel or not, but I must admit I was elated to hear the allegations.  I don’t know if Paris really made the statement or not, but based on her life achievements I have to believe that she probably did. I am an adamant believer in the theory that there is truth to every rumor; people aren’t smart enough to conjure up things like this and it just doesn’t make logically sense for someone to make something up that is so far removed from anything Paris has been involved with.  So she probably did say something along the lines of what Neil Strauss has recounted in his book.  But either way I’m happy that this came out whether it is true or not.

Why do people respond to me when I get angry about a lyric in a song that blatantly disrespects or ostracizes dark skin Black women, with “. . .everyone is entitled to their own preference”, but when Paris Hilton says she dislikes Black men she’s a racist? I don’t understand the disconnect with our logic.  Why is it we can see the fault with Paris’ alleged statement, but we can’t see the fault in our own backyard. Or maybe the difference between Paris’ alleged statement and the indirect statement and actions of a lot of Black men in the media, with regards to dark skin Black women, is that Paris has the nerve to say it, whereas everyone else just does it.

What is the difference between the following statements:

I only date ___ guys/girls.

I don’t like __ guys/girls.

If no one has a problem with Black men saying I only date White or light-skin Black women then why do we have a problem with Paris Hilton allegedly admitting that she doesn’t like Black men?

I didn’t hear anyone ruffle their panties when Puff Daddy said in the Fontaine Bleau song by the Bugatti Boyz ft Masspike Miles,  “. . .a queen is always a man’s best accessory, look at mine she’s half Black and Cherokee. . .” as if being half of something other than Black is a rare commodity; something to be treasured, something to be revered, something better than a queen that was all Black. I don’t think this statement is that far removed from Paris’ alleged statement.

We’re so protective of our men that even the media has jumped on the band wagon.  I wonder how many panties would have  been ruffled if it had been Nicki Minaj singing praise about her half Cherokee boyfriend. . .

But, I guess since our men are not as protective of us, no one makes  a fuss when someone chants about their preference.  It’s okay not to like those of us that are all Black because no one is suppose to. . .

I guess no one really does.

It’s okay for Paris to want to be with someone who looks like her and fantasize about having children that look like her — but I’m still having a hard time reconciling the sentiment of those who hate, degrade, and ostracize people that look just like them.

Either way, I’m happy someone made him, the one whose skin complexion is similar to my own, but he’s genitalia coupled with his skin complexion makes him the epitome of sexuality, whereas mine makes me less than a woman, I’m glad that someone made him feel the way he makes me feel – “gross”.

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Post from Los Angeles Times/Entertainment

“I’m an African American female, and I’m glad she said it! These black guys are pathetic wannabes these days. Finally a white blonde woman with enough sense to and self esteem that she doesn’t want to be some insecure black man’s “prize” and I hope that lame black actor knows exactly who she’s talking about, lol. Paris is cool and IS NOT a racist because she likes men her own race. I wish there were more white females with as much self respect as her…”

Posted by: black woman who supports Paris!

Lil’ Wayne Has Dark Skin Daughters

In Dark Skin & Hollywood on March 17, 2011 at 5:36 pm

Oh my goodness.  I almost fell out of my chair the day one of my girlfriends told me that Lil’ Wayne has dark skin daughters.  I couldn’t believe my eyes and it made me wonder, how many entertainers who rant and rave about their obsession with light skin and White women, have dark skin daughters, who are listening or will one day hear their lyrics?

Mr. Lil’ Wayne how exactly do you propose addressing your dark skin Black daughter’s sense of insecurity with song lyrics like this:

“. . .beautiful Black woman, I bet you that bitch look better red”?

“Red” is a termed used to describe Light Skin Black Women in the Black Community.

Inter-racism in the black community is no secret.  The inter-racism that purports light skin women as being superior to dark skin women has been in existence,  in the Black American community, since our involuntary exodus from our continent of origin, hence The Brown Paper Bag Society.  Thus, there is no question in the back of my mind that one day your dark skin daughter(s), Mr. Wayne, will one day feel a sense of insecurity as she stands at the check-out counter of the grocery store with her mother. One day she will ask herself at that counter, “How come none of the pretty women in the magazines look like me?”  This question is silently posed by every dark skin Black woman at one time or another in her youth. Contrary to popular belief children are very observant, perhaps even more so than adults.

As a child I noticed it in the cartoons, like Proud Family — the star of the cartoon, Pennie, was light skin with long hair.  Her best friend was ghetto and grew up in a single-parent household, and her house wasn’t as nice as Pennie’s and of course she was dark skin.  But the darkest of all the characters were the big fat mean ugly girls; there were three of them.  They were so black the artists drew them in shades of dark blue.  Even as a child I saw it.  I was no where except where they needed someone big, bad, ghetto, poor and ugly.

I digress, how is Lil’ Wayne going to comfort his dark skin daughter when he too has contributed to this madness.  I miss Wu Tang.  When Wu Tang sang a song about the beauty and splendor that is woman, they talked about all of us.  I had a place in Wu Tang’s song, IceCream, they even gave me a place in their video. The song was about women and how much they loved them no matter what color they were.  If you were White you could raise your hand when they chanted French Vanilla, if you were Hispanic you could raise your hand when they chanted, Butter Pecan Rican, if you were light-skin Black you could raise your hand when they chanted, Caramel Sundae, if you were Asian you could raise your hand when they chanted, Fly Colored Asian, and even I got to raise my hand when they chanted, Chocolate Deluxe.  And make no mistake of it, Wu Tang put us all in their video.  I wasn’t just there because I was the blackest, the fattest, the ugliest nor was I there for ridicule — I was there because I was a woman — not 1/8 th woman — just a woman deserving of reverence and adoration simply because I was a woman.

But, now songs about women are about one type, light-skin or white.  Isn’t that right Mr. Wayne?  The first words sung in Lil Wayne’s song “Every Girl” are:

“I like a long hair thick red bone . . .” The song continues as Lil Wayne’s friend concurs with his preference, ” I like ‘um caramel skin long hair. . . my butter pecan rican be screamin’ out papi every time [a brother] deep in. . .”  Funny the video does show dark skin women and I have a funny feeling someone must have told them to do that, because per the lyrics of the song, the Black women in the video have no place. They even chanted the names of the women they like, Paris Hilton, Eva Longoria, Miley Cyrus, and of course they had to throw in some token sista’s, D Woods, and Megan Good.

I don’t understand it.  We’ve come so far to go so far back and I guess Lil Wayne and the like don’t care that they are contributing to an era where women who are of the same complexion as their children are not given the same proprietorship of femininity as those who are fairer skin. You would think that someone who had dark skin daughters and was blessed with the kind of fame that  influences the paradigm of today’s youth, would engage in activities that would benefit the quality of life for their children.  Where would we be if Martin Luther King and all the other Civil Rights leaders chose not to assume the responsibility of their community, but instead focused on themselves?

I have yet to hear a White artist sing a song about Pale White or Tan White girls — a White girl, tan or not, is a White girl to White People. But, there is a difference between light skin Black women and dark skin Black women to  Black men, like you Mr. Wayne.   Why am I not a woman to you?  Why isn’t your daughter a woman to you? Don’t we have enough to deal with? Do we really need to sustain the “divide and conquer by whitening the Black race” mission of slave masters — we are our worst enemy and the puppets of Hollywood are now the slave owners.

. . . I was born this way — that doesn’t make me 1/8th anything.

We would have chanted this together 100 years ago. We would have held hands together, closed our eyes together, and prayed together as we faced the dogs encouraged to attack us during the Civil Rights movement 43 years ago — why did you let my hand go, 43 years later?

I miss Wu-Tang.  I really do.  And Mr. Wayne, when your daughter needs someone to tell her she’s beautiful —  tell her to come find me. . . I’ll not only tell her, I’ll play some Wu Tang so that she can see a man, several of them, telling her she’s beautiful too.  Wu Tang will give her a chance to finally, say, “The one they like looks like me”.

And make no mistake of it Mr. Wayne, your daughter, the one in the picture above, is a beautiful dark skin little lady who will grow up to be a beautiful, sexy, elegant dark skin Black Woman — I hope by then your songs are off the radio so she doesn’t forget who she is.

Aside from Lil Wayne I must say the other thing that really pisses me off, is that I’m living in an era where songs like this are played all day on the radio and I didn’t hear one uproar from the Black community about it.  I’ve seen dozens of Black men blasting and chanting this song in their cars. Where are the real men? Black women would have lost their minds if one of our artists created a song that blatantly disrespected dark skin Black men.

I suppose we are the forgotten race.

I am no prize to Mr. Wayne or any other man–

not enough of them stood up for me. . .

But, that’s okay, I guess.  I’ll find a way to reconcile this.  I was never really good at double dutch — but I always jumped in at the best time — I’ll wait my turn.

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MakeUp Tips for Dark Skin Black Women: Eyebrow Liner

In Beauty & Fashion on March 16, 2011 at 12:32 am

If I see another dark skin Black woman with black eyebrow liner I am going to kill myself, seriously!  Okay, as a dark skin Black woman I know how difficult it can be to find makeup that compliments our skin tone, but that does not mean we have to settle for whatever is available.  You should be open-minded when it comes to enhancing those beautiful features that are rarely ever celebrated in the media.

Ladies, never ever, and I mean never ever, wear black pencil liner on your eyebrows, especially if you are a dark skin Black woman.

I was having lunch with a friend of mine and I went to the bathroom to touch up my makeup.  I pulled out a brown liquid eyeliner tube and started to touch up my eyebrow makeup.  My friend, who is also dark skin, says to me, “Why are you putting brown on? Is it going to turn black?” and I replied, “Do my eyebrows ever look brown?” and she replied, “No”.   

So that’s why they always look so weird, I thought to myself.  Dark skin Black women are actually enhancing their eyebrows with black brow liner.

Well our eyebrow hair is usually black so we should accentuate our eyebrows with black liner, right — WRONG!  Nothing, including your hair, is truly black.  Not even the fur of a black cat is truly black.  If you take a strand of your black hair and hold it up to a light bulb you will see that your hair, is actually a deep maroon brownish black.  It’s not really black at all. Same goes for your eyebrow hair.  I never wear black brow-liner — I only wear dark brown and nobody knows that it’s brown, because it looks so natural.  And it looks natural because it blends with the root color of my hair.

Furthermore, as a dark skin Black woman you should always accentuate your features by illuminating your face with natural, soft, earthy colors.  Brown brow-liner softens the appearance of the eye and draws attention to the eye rather than to a dark black line on the lower part of your forehead.  I don’t understand how dark skin Black women who wear black liner on their eyebrows can look at themselves in the mirror and say, “I look good”.  No you don’t.  But, I guess since we really don’t have anything to aspire to when it comes to beauty, as we are rarely portrayed as sexual vixens or goddesses of beauty in the media, we don’t really know what makes us look best. And I guess  we’ve been conditioned to believe that the best we can physically be as dark skin women is okay.  Well I think we can do better — because we are and it’s high time we learned how to accentuate our beauty.  Makeup should never look like makeup and it most definitely shouldn’t darken or draw attention away from your features.

Another tip on drawing eyebrows is that it should never be done with a pencil.  Pencil liner smudges and it makes your eyebrow not only look like a hot mess, but it also makes your eyebrows look thicker, which makes your forehead look shorter, which immediately makes your features look disproportionate to your face.  You should only accentuate your eyebrows with liquid brow or eyeliner.  If you have extremely oily skin you should try using the waterproof liquid eyeliners.  But beware: the waterproof liquid eyeliners will crumble off by the end of the day so you need to do a touch up every four hours; unless of course you like having spaces in your eyebrows.  And another thing about the pencil — when you use a pencil it prevents you from creating a sharp eyebrow shape.  Liquid eyeliner glides on like paint so you have more control over the shape you create or the area that you fill.

So, if you’re a dark skin Black woman who draws on her eyebrows or accentuates the appearance of her eyebrows the best and most inexpensive brown liquid eyeliner that you can try, if you believe us, is:

Wet’n Wild, H20 Proof Liquid Eyeliner, Color 884.

You can find this anywhere, WalMart, Target, Publix … anywhere.  Now this is not the best shade of brown, but it is the most inexpensive way to test our theory.  I promise you this is one theory you need to test!  No black eyebrows please!


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